The Question:Why Do Men Love Women

What have women got that men just can't stop going crazy over them? Is it because of love or lust? What makes those two diverge? At the early age of puberty, men feels fascinated to women. They have the penchant also to be attracted to older girls even at the age of 7. This is because older girls are a lot sexier and attractive. It looks they see their mother in older girls. Younger men feel pampered by older women. Older women tend to understand younger men more particularly in their mood. But as they grow older, men love women younger than them or at their age.

How can you actually define love or differentiate love from lust? Is it love that men felt when they spot a woman and feel something? Well I could declare that it would take time to finally conclude that what he or she feels is already that issue called love.

Love is past physical, it is something you can't touch. When you can forgive and forget what a person has caused you, then that is love.

Lust, on the other hand is still an feeling that is merely physical.This is linked with the feeling of craving a person sexually but oftentimes leads to Love and wanting to impart something beyond physical.

You can say you really love a person if in a longer span of time, you remain fascinated to him or her physically and later on turned into something sensitively distinctive.

Steps to draw men:
1) Fill up your love tank- love the people surrounding you, welcome their decency, love yourself. Men are more fascinated to women who illustrate that they are to be respected and valued. Friends can help particularly affectionate and wonderful friends. It will present in your well-being if you are full of love and when you are full of love, you can love others already.

2) Cook up Love - Be the master of the kitchen and attract your man through his stomach.
3) Be yourself - While men loves being pursued, most men still love to chase women. Shine in other things so he would perceive you; for example if he is a school mate then excel in the classroom. If he is a neighbor who doesn't even give a look, then start by giving the mother some new recipes to cook. Act as if he's not your goal and let him target you instead.

Men are born polygamous and they tend to glance elsewhere and this is extremely important when looking for a mate. We don't know for sure how to keep his attention unless of course if he really loves you that much not to consider hurting your feelings. You have to take the chance, for it might be precious in the end and anyway life is a risk you have to take and that incorporates loving someone.

Men have crabbiness too that need women to shut up so it is important to know the nature of men. Listen and don't nag but be sharp in studying the thin line that separates listening and enabling your partner to fool you. Solving troubles in a relationship is in the hands of a woman. It is hard for women to keep their men and keep them interested with them all the time. Keep you man enthralled with you through these steps:

1) The center of a relationship should be reliance.Faith and trust must at all times be present.

1) CREATE MOMENTS TOGETHER. Typically men do this; out of the blue men would propped a date in some passionate place just for two; a candlelight dinner, with a music in the background or may be a little bit offhand as just walking in Manila Bay at sunset, a picnic at the Park or in the Zoo, for those of smaller budget, but whatever it is what is important is that you make some moments together, because that is what life is all about.

2) Share your dreams and aspirations to your loved one. Your relationship does not consist of you alone so when it comes to your thoughts and aspirations, see if it fits with his. How close or far apart, similar or conflicting are your dreams and his dreams, then you'll know if you are to go on this relationship or not. Never give up a dream just to satisfy your partner's emotional insecurities as this will be the cause of the potential breakdown of your relationship in the end.

3) DON'T NAG. Learn to listen to your partner's side and don't be a faultfinder. Your relationship must have trust in order to have future. Nurture and win trust instead of abusing it.

4) Be a friend first and became lovers later on. Lovers should only be second from friendship to make it continue longer.

Make Up With Your Partner After A Huge Fight

Why saying, "I am sorry" is such a challenging endeavor, especially to someone you still love, care about, and want to be in a relationship with. Apologies are not supposed to be easy, it is hard for us to accept our faults and more so to learn that someone's feelings are hurt, whether it is intentional or not and the reason being you. It is soul-baring indeed. Yet when one accepts one's fault and asks for forgiveness in the right manner, it is definitely powerful and rehabilitative and can win us friends. This Buzzle article addresses the issue of how to make up with your partner after a big fight. It is very important for all to learn this art of making up to your partners to have healthy relationships and avoid a clash of egos in a steady relationship. Scroll down to know more...

Try to show that your love is more important than these petty fights.

Fighting with someone you love, no matter how big or small the issue is, can be quite upsetting. You feel angry, hurt and even say things you do not really mean. Therefore, it is important to make up to your partner, it will help you get over the fight, making your relationship healthier than before. By making up, you indirectly tell the person that their love is important to you than the stupid petty fights. Come up with creative ways to make up to your partner. Even the cliched ones, like sending a bouquet of flowers with a sorry card, can work wonders.

Take responsibility for your part of the fight and say sorry like you really mean it.

Put yourself in your partners shoes and think about your reaction. Try to see your partner's point of view. Arguing, shouting and fighting will not help you reach any conclusion, think with a cool head. If you think even 20% of the entire fight is your mistake, go ahead, apologize for your part and make sure you apologize like you really mean it. Probably, by that time, your partner has also sorted out issues and is willing to compromise, you never know. If you apologize first, it will only make your partner realize that you gave the whole problem a serious thought, and that their views too are respected. Go for a long drive after that and binge on an ice cream!

Wake up early to make a fantastic breakfast with a note that reads, "I am sorry, forgive me.

Usually after a huge fight, even if things are sorted, there is a tense atmosphere, isn't it? That is because you haven't done anything special for your partner after that huge fight. The word is make it up to them. You can wake up a little earlier than your partner and prepare a fantastic breakfast for them, arrange the table and do not forget to place a sorry note or card. A way to anybody's heart (be it man or woman) is through their stomach! This idea really works! The last time my friend's wife was upset, he made it up to her like this and trust me she was in tears, she hugged him and apologized too.

Go away to a romantic place for a couple of days.

Surprise your partner, by taking him/her out to a romantic vacation for a few days. Spend some quality time with your partner and notice how your partner perceives the world differently. This is the essence of every relationship, understand what your partner values, cherishes and expects out of this relation. 90% of fights are caused because of a misunderstanding or difference in opinion. Everybody is different, and to err is human. Try to accept your partner the way he/she is, respect his/her views, be supportive, and if you are wrong don't hesitate to apologize. Because ultimately the very fact that you guys are together is because of the bond of love, try to strengthen it more by spending quality time together and not test it by fighting.

There is nothing quite like making up after a huge fight, it can be the most magical moment. The very reason you make up to someone shows your love and concern for that person. When you apologize, you leave your ego behind and just want the person to forgive you, because for you his/her presence in your life means a lot to you. It makes your relationship stronger than before. So, if you still haven't apologized, go for it, it is really worth the effort!

Give More Love For Your Kids

Last weekend I spent two days at a homeschooling conference. I even ran into a Steady Mom reader there. (Hi Donna! Thanks for saying hello--you made my day.)

I always look forward to this annual retreat as a time to refocus, and this year was no exception. One speaker especially made me think as he shared about the importance of including our children in the details of our everyday lives.

"The only way you'll include them is if you like them." Sounds reasonable, doesn't it? Yet I know I've been through times when I find this to be a challenge. Not all developmental stages are pleasant, are they?How can we love our children in the midst of seasons when their behaviors may not be incredibly likeable?
Here are four strategies I've found helpful.

1. Get out the baby pictures.
Babies are just sweet and kissable. Something about their helplessness endears them to us.I try to start every morning with a quick moment in which I remember what my children were like as babies. Thinking about a few special memories reminds me that my kids are still the same souls they were then, and helps me approach them with more compassion.

There were so many babies and toddlers at the conference I attended--it made me just fall in love with their chubby cheeks and generous smiles. I needed that. (But no, we're not adding to our family, in case you're wondering!!)

2. Be with your children.
"But I'm with them all. the. time!" you might reply. I know, but I'm realizing that often though I'm with them, I'm not with them.

Can you relate? Sometimes I float mentally in and out while crossing off items on my to-do list, only paying attention to the kids when something goes wrong.

Recently I got into the habit of quickly checking my email in the morning. This was before the kids were even awake, so I thought it was fine. What I discovered, though, is that I then started the morning with the children already thinking of other work that needs to be done. Not good.

Our kids reflect what they feel; they mirror what they see in us. If we're not really "with" them, they know it--and sometimes their behavior pleads with us to be present.

3. Hug and kiss more.
This idea could be called "fake it 'til you make it." Some might find this insincere, but I am often amazed that acting loving and affectionate helps you start to actually feel more loving and affectionate.

It can be hard to show affection to a child who has recently angered you, but doing so puts you both on the track of recovery.

4. See the best in them--like you hope they will with you.
Remember when Kat wrote about her daughters' Christmas memories, which were so different from her own?As moms we hope our kids will remember the effort we put in and the love we gave, instead of the times we yelled or made mistakes. Don't we need to do the same for them?

A child who is bossy may have a great capacity for leadership. One who cries easily may have a depth of sensitiviy and compassion. Visualize what you see in them and what it may become in the future. Doing so allows you to grab onto a strand of patience in the present.

It may not seem very "Steady Mom-ish" to admit not liking my children from time to time, but I bet some of you reading can relate. None of us have motherhood completely figured out, but we can find ways to hang on to joy in our day-to-day lives.

Valentine’s Day – What You Can Do For Her Or Him?

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. For those couples out there, are you wondering about the perfect gift for your significant other?  What about those of you just looking for a gift for a good friend or family member to show them your love and appreciation? The typical rose and chocolate combination may seem like a great present, but have you ever thought of other gift ideas? In particular, alternative gifts which are not just eco-friendly and ethically made, but also hold significance, and are creative?

So how many of you planned to give your special ones something special. I am sure, you're tired with all old cards and teddies. They are always cute without any doubt but they are quite old gadgets to show your love. She Exists aims girls so here are a bit different valentine's day gift ideas to improve your day and to make him love you more.

1.) Local florists & Greenhouses – Roses are grown in third world countries where workers are exploited. Also, large amounts of pesticides are used daily. Instead, buy a bouquet of locally grown flowers at your neighbourhood florist or buy seeds to grow together as a surprise! 

2.) Local & Organic restaurants – Search up a new and local restaurant around your area for a fun and healthy dining experience. 

3.) Movie Night – You don’t have to go out to have fun. Stay at home for a comfortable dinner and a rented movie. No car, no emissions.

4.) Chocolate – Chocoholic? Be sure to purchase fair trade or even organic chocolate at your local supermarket. Check out the label and you know one thing is for sure: it’ll taste great!

5.) Make-It-Yourself – What could be more creative than making a gift yourself? Make a pop up card, build a photo collage, sew or knit together a stuffy for your friend, family, or loved one.

6) Jar Full of Romantic Notes

What about giving him a jar, full of romantic notes. Secret messages which you can never tell him loud and small wishes? I am sure he will love to find this unique thing for him and keep it as the best love asset of his love life.

7) The Best Gift is Your Time

The best and all time hot gift is to give your time in the busy routine. Spend an evening with him, just the two of you and make the time for each other. He would love it and love you.

Make your time romantic on this valentine. So What you're planning to give your special one this valentine? Share your responses on this post to send us your feedback and show your participation.

Try something different, explore the alternatives that you can turn to, and make this Valentine’s Day a great one for you, your loved one, and the world.