Every now and then, no matter how close and intimate a couple is, an argument occasionaly looms to create a tide in the relationship. Although sometimes it shakes a relationship down to its very core, if handled well, it is healthy and
In a relationship, petty disagreements and misunderstandings are unavoidable. Couples are predisposed to bickering, and the longer they're together, the better they get at it. While some couples can swear they've never raised their voices to one another or stormed off in the heat of the moment, more explosive and passionate arguments can be extremely cathartic - and sexy.
Jealousy is a natural human emotion. It is not negative in itself. How people react to jealous feelings make it negative.
Usually, jealousy stems from the lack of trust or lack of assurance from one's partner. It can also come from a low self-image or an inferioriy complex. If you're the jealous one, learn to act by reason and not by emotion. Your jealousy is just a product of your own mental-emotional patterns that only exist in your head. Just because your lover admired something about another person, does not mean that you are loved any less, or that the person is more attractive than you are. Voice out how you feel to your partner so that you can discuss things and he can help you alleviate your jealousy. If your partner is the green-eyed monster, assure him of your devotion and reassure him of his innate worth as your love mate. Perhaps your partner needs more attention and affection than you are giving him.
When you're going through the honeymoon phase of your relationship, money may not be much of an issue. Nonetheless, as the relationship progresses, power struggles and control issues around money may just start surfacing. This creates tension that if not resolved, can put a serious damper on the relationship. Where critical differences exist in your financial expectations, try to negotiate. Work out a way of managingyour finances that gives you both some control. In any case, if one is earning more than the other, he/she shouldn't hold all the control because even if the other is contributing less in the financial aspect, that does not mean he/she is contributing any less in other areas of the relationship. Over all of this, if there are still issues, sit and talk things over. Discussion and cooperation may not confer instant solutions to difficultfinancial issues, but knowing you and your partner agree about how to approach the situation will help maintain the zing in your relationship.
Arguments by nature are difficult and can even be hurtful and frustrating. And yet, they are a normal natural aspect of any relationship. Like the salt to meat dishes, they add flavor to the lives of couples and help build better relationships. On the other hand, if disputes are handled poorly, they can also potentially wreck a strong relationship. So, in order to avoid this, every disagreement should be carefully handled in a way that would boost relationship satisfaction and pave the way for new growth together. Truly, it's fun to fight and make up (and out) after knowing you have worked together through it all.
Religious matters can be touchy, mainly because people tend to either feel very strongly about their faith or are not too concerned with spirituality at all. Trying to argue with someone over his or her religious beliefs is often a hopeless battle, so if it affects your lifestyle to the point where change is essential, you might be waiting a long time. Religious beliefs can affect everything from political and social views to child-rearing and financial decisions.
If you're someone who doesn't feel that strongly about any faith in particular, adapting to and accepting your partner's beliefs may not be too difficult, even if you don't necessarily agree as wholeheartedly as he or she does. But if you strongly disagree with the other person's religious views, it may be one argument that is never truly over.
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