Thursday, December 13, 2012

Why We Must Love Our Parents

No matter how old a mother is , she always watches her middle aged children for signs of improvement. The happiest moments of all men's lives are always spent in the arms of a wife of another man – mother! a man with parents alive is a fifteen year old boy and remains a fifteen year old boy till they die. Parentage is the most important profession , but no test of fitness for it is ever imposed in the interest of children. Parents love their children more than anything, but at times we are so busy growing up that we often forget that even our parents are growing old, we all also must love our parents as they love us.

Every parents love their children. they consider their children as the most important and precious aspect of their lives. a hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world. Parents' love for their children is obvious from each and every effort they do for their children. They deserve to be loved back by their children. Parents are the two people which have greatest influence on our lives. They are the people we want to be with throughout our life.


Parents bring us on this earth to live life, parents rear their children with so many dreams and expectations in their eyes.but utmost expectation of a parent is to be acknowledged and loved back by the children.our parents take so much care of us that we always feel like a five year old in the absence or presence of our parents. It is a universal truth that kids often try to copy their parents. Thus the parents turn out to be the first teachers whom we admire.

Parents keep in ignoring petty issues and mistakes of their children. They have great patience and tolerance power .especially mothers in our society, take place elsewhere occupied by the fates, the system, community, mothers go on getting blamed for their children till their eighties, but never take it personally.nothing could convince our parents stop loving us they try to love us at every situation.they handle our mistakes very wisely and help us how to avoid them in future.

Whatever a kid demands, his parents try to fulfil the demand of their kid. The first demand that a kid makes by crying for milk makes the milk ooze out of a mothers breast. Similar type of this reactions keep on coming forward as a kid keep on demanding for the one thing or the other throughout his life. They may at times provide us with the basic and quintessential needs of our survival but also sacrifice their own for us.and above all , bearing all the hardships silently is what makes them "parents".

They keep on fulfilling our demands and often they have to make sacrifices in order to fulfil our demands. They do it without showing any signs of dismay or distress. They don't even mention about their sacrifices and keep on making till their death.first our parents give us life and then they try to give their own life to us.
Howsoever ungrateful a child may turn out to be but parents never show indifference. Children are always loved by their parents. Children may at times abandon their parents but a very idea of the same leaves the parents in a feeling of destitute. They smile or cry with their children.

Thursday, December 6, 2012

How Should Parents Love Children Equally

As a parent have you fallen into the pattern of what you do for one child you do for the other? Do you try to ensure love children are treated equally when it comes to attention, time and things?

Perhaps it's time to look at treating your children fairly instead of equally. Fair and equal are not the same thing. Treating children equally means you treat them exactly the same. Treating children fairly means you take into account the individual needs of each child.

For example, your youngest child needs a new pair of shoes. The sibling says, "I didn't get a new pair of shoes. That's not fair!" It's important for you as the parent to point out that their sibling outgrew their shoes and needed a new pair so that was fair. Getting a new pair of shoes, when they're not needed, simply because a sibling received a new pair would be equal treatment not fair treatment and in our family we believe in being fair.


Using a fair approach instead of an equal approach might be something you are not currently doing or perhaps you are challenged with doing it as consistently as you would like. Take a close look at why you treat your children equally instead of fairly. Ask yourself some questions. Do I not want to hurt my child's feelings? Does it bother me to see my child disappointed? Am I afraid my children will think I love one of them more than the other? What message am I sending to my children when I treat them equally all of the time?

Are your children learning from you that they should expect equal treatment regardless of the situation? Does that reflect how society treats us? Life isn't always fair and it certainly doesn't always treat us equally. That's an important lesson for parents to teach their children.

I encourage you to take small steps in changing the way you treat your children. Strive to treat them fairly and not equally. If you're unable to make this change on your own it might be time to enlist the help of a parenting coach or a counselor.