End A Love Triangle To Help You Get Out Of It

Are you in love with another man or woman while still being in a relationship with someone? The obvious consequences are an unhappy relationship, adultery and three broken hearts. Quoting the character Earl Smooter from the movie Sweet Home Alabama, "You can't ride two horses with one ass, sugarbean". You know you are in a love triangle when you have two suitors of whom there is a preference for one over the other OR when your beloved is in love with someone else. Love triangles can get very messy. You may be in someone's life and you may have deep admiration and fondness for them. But, you cannot continue this forever. Do you know how to get out of a love triangle? Maybe you don't. Love does switch off a part of your brain and everything becomes so complicated and confusing. It is okay if you don't know what to do, which is why I have explained the solution from the shoes of all three sides of the triangle.

When You are the 'Other' Person
It is always difficult to be the other woman or man in your lover's life. You don't enjoy the rights that you should as a partner. Your love gets no acknowledgment before the world. You have to keep it all under the sheets and then even share the love with someone else who rightfully claims their ownership over your lover's heart. Love makes us do crazy things... even willingly being the 'other' person. But, you need to get out of it with or without your lover. Else you will forever be stuck in a rut. Ending a love triangle is not so easy but you need to tell your lover that they can only be on either side. Tell them to either choose you or go back to where they came from. It's about time you claim what is yours and what you deserve. And once you have made the decision to leave, stay determined because a fickle mind is a battle lost. The grief of separation will be present but if you truly promise to recuperate, you will find yourself in no time in the arms of a lover who respects and loves you unconditionally. You just need to believe in yourself and stop letting your insecurities prevent you from achieving the happiness that you deserve.

When You are in Love with Two People
Are you in love with two people? That is such a complicated situation. You are not with this one completely and you are not with that one either. What are you doing? Being in love with two people is like keeping your heart in a love limbo, a place where you will never be able to move on and enjoy a relationship, be with someone and be sure of it. You are preventing all three of you from moving on. The attention of two lovers is exciting but it serves no good when you cannot fully commit to even one. Not to forget, the guilt of it all that prevents you from having a healthy relationship with either of your lovers. Even if you are secretly in love with the second person and he/she does not know it, don't even tell. You need to get that person out of your thoughts. Out of sight, out of mind. This is easier than you think it is because every person can control his/her mind. If you cannot, you will remain helpless. You have to choose either of the two people and then decide to be with one of them. Time mends everything and you will see that with time, you will be over the other person before you even know it.

When You are in Love Outside Your Relationship
Even when the general perceptions are that a person cannot fall in love with two people at the same time, our cinema is full of movies based on love triangles. It does happen in real life too. If you are the person in love with two people, you know it definitely does! It is a love addiction. So, how are you going to get out of this love triangle? You need to make a decision. You are essentially cheating on both your partners and in the process, hurting all three of you. Those who know, may think you are lucky to deserve the love of two people, but, inside your heart you know the complication of your actions that may rock your life like an explosive storm suddenly, any day. Aren't you just tired already of shuttling and hiding your affair? The tension of getting caught may be giving you the thrills, but you cannot act so selfishly especially towards the people you love. You have to let one of them go, don't delay that decision. Now is the time, not later. You will end up hurting one of them but at least you will let them go and get the love of one person wholly.
You may make your choices based on the circumstances in your life. You love both of them but, now, you will have the chance to give all your love to one person just the way they give it to you. Stick to your decision and vow never to repeat your mistake again. Love affairs can turn very ugly and end up in grotesque crimes. Get out of it before it comes and gets you!

When You Find Out about your Partner's Infidelity
Nothing can kill you more than knowing that the one you love so dearly is not even in love with you. Worse, he/she loves someone else. You may feel betrayed and foolish. What are you going to do now about this situation? The best thing to do is to accept the truth and confront your partner on it. If you keep mum about it or pretend to be blind, you will make yourself fall harder into a pit of pain. You will also unwillingly encourage your partner to continue with such kind of a behavior. Are you willing to stay in this relationship and make it work? Then, first, ask your partner what he/she wants. Give them an ultimatum that you expect their answer by a certain period. Give yourself time too and do not communicate. If you want to work it out, do not admit unless your partner does and tells you that they are willing to mend their ways. Start afresh. Is that not the option for you? Vent your anger on him and express your disappointment, then, try to get over the breakup.

It is not easy ending a love triangle, but you will thank yourself later and live happily after, minus a third person. You will breathe a sigh of relief. Nobody wants to be in such a love turmoil because then it starts messing with your head and your life. You will never be truly happy from the inside because there will only be short-lived and fleeting moments of happiness. Ultimately, your inner voice will haunt you until you get yourself out of it and never go back.

How Do You Truly Make A Man Love You?

If you have ever been in love, you may have experienced how it actually feels like to be blinded by it. People in love longed to visualise it. Shakespeare also mentioned in many of his plays that Love is blind, and Lovers cannot see. Will blinded love lead to endless mistakes and regrets? Logically speaking, Love can choose to be blind, but lovers should not be. In its truest sense, the ideology that love is blind does not and even if it does, should not exist but the benefit of every man and woman who is seeking love.

You want him to want you for more than just trivial matters, like physical intimacy. In fact, you want him to stay and commit, and moreover you need him to love you, and want to be with you... not just for a few moments, but indefinitely. But how do you bring a guy to a stage where he is confessing his love? How do you truly make a man love you?

With the rate at which relationships break up, married or not, being well over 50% it should be pretty obvious that people are simply not getting it. What aren't they getting? They aren't getting the opposite sex. People do not understand their counterparts, and here is where you fit into the role too: most women do not understand how a man's mind works.

They don't get men. In fact, right now, you don't get men either. That is why you are here, reading this. but, I am not saying any of this to make you feel bad though, in fact, I am telling you this to show you a key point: the key to making a man fall in love with you, is  how the male mind works. In essence, the key is to understand men.

Now while women can never know everything about a man, what women can do is learn the universal truths. Universal truths are facts that are always constant regardless of the situation or circumstance. It basically means that there are certain things which are true for every man, and all are affected by it.
It is your job then, to learn these truths, and use them to understand men, so that they can feel like you "get" them, which leads a man to feel comfortable enough to want to love you.

1. Men Hide and GUARD Their Emotions Excessively
You see, every man has weak spots. Every man has areas where he will give in, and where he absolutely needs to be tended to or taken care of. While they MAY act like they can handle it all, and they don't need anything from anyone....the truth of it all, is that is just a cover for his weaknesses.
You see, men are afraid to let you know how much they are affected by you, because it would mean he is revealing a loss of power, weakness. It means he is giving you the power to control him from that point on, because now you can take him down easily if you wanted to.

The key here is that man will love you, if he is ABLE to first trust you enough with his emotions, secrets, and weaknesses....wherein you don't make fun of him for it, you don't use it against him once you do know, and wherein you aren't making him feel like you are manipulating that knowledge to gain certain things from him.

In order to do this, you have to be extremely accepting and non-judgmental whenever a man reveals personal or truly intimate things about himself. Be supportive, let him know he can trust you with his secrets, and that you are not going to use them against him.

2. Expect Only Of Yourself
Instead of always holding him up to your standards, and instead of always expecting him to act, speak, and be a certain way; place your expectations on yourself. Whenever you expect from a man, and tell him to be a certain way, you are in essence informing him that you do not accept him as he is.

This makes him feel like you simply do not get him, and causes him to withdraw and makes it impossible for him to love you. Why be around him, if you want him to change so much, and be someone else for you?

A man can learn to love you, only if you first let him know that it is ok for him to be himself to begin with. Not only this, but when you expect of him, you put an intense amount of pressure on him which he cannot always fulfill. It makes you seem needy as well; which in turn does not make a man feel comfortable around you.
Expecting from yourself lets a man know that you take responsibility, and that you are able to handle yourself. It gives him a chance to admire you on a deeper level, because he has a chance to see you being independent, strong, and it gives him time to concentrate on who you are, instead of always spending his time trying to fix things or change.

Remember that the less needy and expectant of him you are, the more a man will be attracted, because it gives him a chance to think of you on a deeper level, because you are no longer 'easy'... but rather present yourself instead as this rare gem he can't help but want.

 

Super Easy Tips To Win Love Back

Love is not easy. Believe me,love was never easy. Love is something you cannot live without.Love is something you cannot live with. You love you are in pain and you dont love you miss the pain. What a crucial condition,what to do to love or not to love?

Love brings an ecstacy, enlightment,energy in life.Love takes away emptiness within you. it gives you a reason to live.Love makes you understand everything, it needs endurance.Endurance to bear the pain, the pain of seperation. a sweet pain.

Relationships are complicated. We all know that. Break ups tend to be even more complex.  If you love your ex still your emotions will feel like they're completely unstable. You'll go from crying one moment to anger the next. Beneath the surface of all that is a desire to erase what just happened so you can be back with the person you adore. Too bad life isn't that easy. Although getting someone back can be a challenge, it's actually not as hard as you may think it is. There are a few super easy tips to get your ex to notice you again that can help get you on the track to reconciliation.

Getting the one you love back is all about pushing certain psychological triggers within them. You want them to feel compelled to come back to you because they just can't imagine another day without you. To you, the best approach to take to make that happen may be to tell them how you feel. It certainly seems logical but it doesn't work. If you go to your ex and pour your feelings out to them it's probably going to make them incredibly uncomfortable. So much so that they'll pull back and break off contact.

One way to push those psychological triggers is to act as though you're perfectly content with the way things are now. If every time your ex sees you, you have a smile on your face and a bounce in your step they're going to automatically assume you're over them. It's going to hurt them in ways they never even imagined. The human heart is funny in that even if you reject someone, if they reject you too, you're going to want them back. It's that plain and simple. Rejection is a bitter pill to swallow. You're just going to use it in a compassionate way and instead of telling your ex you're done with them, you'll let your actions tell the story.

Some people will suggest that you start dating again as a way to push your ex into seeing that they're going to lose you. I don't advise you do this for a number of reasons. Most importantly, if you're trying to get back the person you love don't allow them to see you with someone else or hear about it from anyone. This creates a mental picture that is impossible to shake. They'll imagine you being very close to the new person and that will kill your ex lover's interest very quickly. You'll fare much better and accomplish a great deal more if you go out with groups of friends. Ensure that there are some folks of the opposite gender there as well.

Then when your ex gets wind that you're going out they'll just hear it's with a group and that will be enough to make their mind wander but not enough for them to jump to damaging conclusions about you.

How To Avoid Extramarital Affair

If you find yourself in the midst of an extramarital affair, you may be trying to figure out what to do next: does this mean the end of your relationship with your partner, or do you think you can find your way back to a loving relationship?

Here are 5 ways back to love.
1. Decide how you really feel about your partner: If you are having an affair, you have likely put any serious thoughts about your relationship with your spouse or partner on the back burner. The thrill or excitement of an affair - at least at the beginning - can serve as a drug that keeps you from seriously facing your real relationship. This state of limbo between two relationships can last for a while, but eventually you will find the need to come back around and face your previous/current relationship with your long-term partner. Ask yourself whether you really have the love for your partner to try make things work.

2. Determine whether you will share your indiscretion: Provided that you do decide you would like to really commit faithfully to your partner, you will have to determine whether it makes the most sense to share news about your affair with him or her or whether to keep it to yourself. This is a very personal decision, and only one that you can rightfully make. Ultimately, it boils down to your own sense of ethics and also your sense of what will make the both of you the happiest.
3. Get some professional help with your relationship: Should you successfully end your affair, the fact that you have had an extramarital affair undoubtedly means you have some serious issues in your relationship that you need to face. Whether you choose to see a therapist by yourself or to do so together with your partner, do seek professional help. You will find that a therapist can really help you work through your issues and increase the chances for a successful relationship.

4. Renew your commitment to your partner: If you want to avoid the chance of having another affair in the future, you must renew your commitment to your partner in your heart. If you are just staying with your spouse or partner because you are afraid of the changes that will come if you leave the relationship, you are doing both of you a disservice. You need to really commit to your love in order to make it work again.

5. Completely end all contact with your recent lover: The way back to your love with your partner includes a final, essential step: cutting off all contact with the person with whom you had the affair. Keeping them on the line or even talking with them periodically means that you are holding a little part of yourself open to the possibility of future untoward contact with that person. Best to let that relationship go completely so that you can focus on being with your spouse or partner and making it work.

The way back to love after an affair is not an easy one. You first need to get in touch with the part of you that knows how you really feel about your partner. Then, if you do decide to commit to your relationship again, you need to psychologically, spiritually, and energetically commit to letting go of the fling you are having and instead focus all of your attention on your partner. You can have the love you deserve, but it requires 100% commitment from your heart.