How Do You Truly Make A Man Love You?

If you have ever been in love, you may have experienced how it actually feels like to be blinded by it. People in love longed to visualise it. Shakespeare also mentioned in many of his plays that Love is blind, and Lovers cannot see. Will blinded love lead to endless mistakes and regrets? Logically speaking, Love can choose to be blind, but lovers should not be. In its truest sense, the ideology that love is blind does not and even if it does, should not exist but the benefit of every man and woman who is seeking love.

You want him to want you for more than just trivial matters, like physical intimacy. In fact, you want him to stay and commit, and moreover you need him to love you, and want to be with you... not just for a few moments, but indefinitely. But how do you bring a guy to a stage where he is confessing his love? How do you truly make a man love you?

With the rate at which relationships break up, married or not, being well over 50% it should be pretty obvious that people are simply not getting it. What aren't they getting? They aren't getting the opposite sex. People do not understand their counterparts, and here is where you fit into the role too: most women do not understand how a man's mind works.

They don't get men. In fact, right now, you don't get men either. That is why you are here, reading this. but, I am not saying any of this to make you feel bad though, in fact, I am telling you this to show you a key point: the key to making a man fall in love with you, is  how the male mind works. In essence, the key is to understand men.

Now while women can never know everything about a man, what women can do is learn the universal truths. Universal truths are facts that are always constant regardless of the situation or circumstance. It basically means that there are certain things which are true for every man, and all are affected by it.
It is your job then, to learn these truths, and use them to understand men, so that they can feel like you "get" them, which leads a man to feel comfortable enough to want to love you.

1. Men Hide and GUARD Their Emotions Excessively
You see, every man has weak spots. Every man has areas where he will give in, and where he absolutely needs to be tended to or taken care of. While they MAY act like they can handle it all, and they don't need anything from anyone....the truth of it all, is that is just a cover for his weaknesses.
You see, men are afraid to let you know how much they are affected by you, because it would mean he is revealing a loss of power, weakness. It means he is giving you the power to control him from that point on, because now you can take him down easily if you wanted to.

The key here is that man will love you, if he is ABLE to first trust you enough with his emotions, secrets, and weaknesses....wherein you don't make fun of him for it, you don't use it against him once you do know, and wherein you aren't making him feel like you are manipulating that knowledge to gain certain things from him.

In order to do this, you have to be extremely accepting and non-judgmental whenever a man reveals personal or truly intimate things about himself. Be supportive, let him know he can trust you with his secrets, and that you are not going to use them against him.

2. Expect Only Of Yourself
Instead of always holding him up to your standards, and instead of always expecting him to act, speak, and be a certain way; place your expectations on yourself. Whenever you expect from a man, and tell him to be a certain way, you are in essence informing him that you do not accept him as he is.

This makes him feel like you simply do not get him, and causes him to withdraw and makes it impossible for him to love you. Why be around him, if you want him to change so much, and be someone else for you?

A man can learn to love you, only if you first let him know that it is ok for him to be himself to begin with. Not only this, but when you expect of him, you put an intense amount of pressure on him which he cannot always fulfill. It makes you seem needy as well; which in turn does not make a man feel comfortable around you.
Expecting from yourself lets a man know that you take responsibility, and that you are able to handle yourself. It gives him a chance to admire you on a deeper level, because he has a chance to see you being independent, strong, and it gives him time to concentrate on who you are, instead of always spending his time trying to fix things or change.

Remember that the less needy and expectant of him you are, the more a man will be attracted, because it gives him a chance to think of you on a deeper level, because you are no longer 'easy'... but rather present yourself instead as this rare gem he can't help but want.